“Many trans girls, including me, have a habit of romanticizing the cisgender experience. A month or two into my transition, I told my girlfriend that I couldn’t wait until I could look in the mirror and see a pretty girl staring back at me. “You realize that’s never going to happen, right?” was her response. “You’re going to look at your reflection and feel unsatisfied — just like every other woman.” And it’s true: Even the most gorgeous of my friends can list a dozen things she’d change about her appearance. So the next time you’re feeling unattractive, don’t blame yourself; blame capitalism and a beauty culture designed to make you feel that way.”—Annika Penelope, 10 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Started My Transition (via albinwonderland)
Eggplant Productions is now taking submissions for a children’s fantasy e-zine as as well as submissions for an adult anthology:
Both anthologies will feature fairy tales retold to feature POC, LGBT and disabled characters, as well as non-Western European and non-North American settings. We are looking for poetry and fiction, as well as artwork for both
“Yesterday, I spent 60 dollars on groceries,
took the bus home,
carried both bags with two good arms back to my studio apartment
and cooked myself dinner.
You and I may have different definitions of a good day.
This week, I paid my rent and my credit card bill,
worked 60 hours between my two jobs,
only saw the sun on my cigarette breaks
and slept like a rock.
Flossed in the morning,
locked my door,
and remembered to buy eggs.
My mother is proud of me.
It is not the kind of pride she brags about at the golf course.
She doesn’t combat topics like, ”My daughter got into Yale”
with, “Oh yeah, my daughter remembered to buy eggs”
But she is proud.
See, she remembers what came before this.
The weeks where I forgot how to use my muscles,
how I would stay as silent as a thick fog for weeks.
She thought each phone call from an unknown number was the notice of my suicide.
These were the bad days.
My life was a gift that I wanted to return.
My head was a house of leaking faucets and burnt-out lightbulbs.
Depression, is a good lover.
So attentive; has this innate way of making everything about you.
And it is easy to forget that your bedroom is not the world,
That the dark shadows your pain casts is not mood-lighting.
It is easier to stay in this abusive relationship than fix the problems it has created.
Today, I slept in until 10,
cleaned every dish I own,
fought with the bank,
took care of paperwork.
You and I might have different definitions of adulthood.
I don’t work for salary, I didn’t graduate from college,
but I don’t speak for others anymore,
and I don’t regret anything I can’t genuinely apologize for.
And my mother is proud of me.
I burned down a house of depression,
I painted over murals of greyscale,
and it was hard to rewrite my life into one I wanted to live
But today, I want to live.
I didn’t salivate over sharp knives,
or envy the boy who tossed himself off the Brooklyn bridge.
I just cleaned my bathroom,
did the laundry,
called my brother.
Told him, “it was a good day.”—Kait Rokowski (A Good Day)
@u@ Hello there new follower types, and followers of old. *loopy Jedi Mind touchy*
Whether it’s Silent Hill, Night Vale, Pacific Rim, Supernatural, Tolkien, random fandoms, ranting, Social Justice or the occasional art post or fluffy kittens you’re looking at me for… I will continue to be scarce until after the con. Expect me at least back in some airy sort of way after next Monday. Then I will probably no longer be as stressed as I feel right now, and maybe will be able to brain, and therefore art more diligently. I may even write again.
Okay, so, I have a Redbubble account. There’s not a whole-whole lot up there right now, mostly one-character, simple tee designs, a couple of iphone and ipad cases, and almost everything can be purchased as stickers, cards or prints! (I’m also perfectly willing to alter designs to fit other formats, if they’re not currently available!)
Currently in progress is a “Cryptids and Mthological Creatures for Kids!” series, where I take a little known, or much-loved creature of myth, fantasy or cryptozoology, and make it into a cutesy, kids-cartoon style design. So far, I’m up to ‘G is for Gargoyle!’, and I add a new shirt every day or other day, when life doesn’t run away from me.
Even if you’re not interested, I’d really, really appreciate it if you’d have a look, share it with anyone you think -might- be interested, and please-please give it a re-blog! Money is tight right now, I have my honeymoon coming up (which is still not paid off), I still need to get some dental work done, and I’m trying to start saving up for some… really important life plans… Every where I turn there’s a new stress popping up, and no time to just relax. So, it’d be a really huge favor if this could just get passed around. Even if you don’t have a lot of followers, maybe somebody will have a look! You never know. <3
If you absolutely, for some reason, can’t pass it around, hey… no worries.
Love you guys! Cheers!
Here’s the link again, in case you missed it: WolfGibbson, at Redbubble! <3<3<3 and it’s in my sidebar on my tumblr mainpage, as well!
Within the first ten minutes of the trailer’s release, GIFS WERE MADE AVAILABLE ON TUMBLR
Within an hour of the trailer’s release, GIFS OF ART BASED ON THE TRAILER WERE POSTED TO TUMBLR
Within six hours of the trailer’s release, ORLANDO BLOOM, EVANGELINE LILY, AND LEE PACE, AKA THE ELVES OF MIRKWOOD, post a video of themselves reacting to a fanmade reaction video created in response to the trailer
<3<3<3 I’m fine! Everyone’s fine. This isn’t directed at anyone(i know on tumblr). Just considering people I frequently deal with, or come across randomly in real life, who make flippant comments or jokes in serious situations, as if they’re ‘illustrating a point’, or trying to ‘diffuse tension’, but in a way that just comes across as dismissive of the topic, or plain offensive.
It happens so frequently, occasionally I just have to rage, especially when things come across my dash that remind me. Sometimes, it’s okay not to ‘lighten the mood’, especially if the way you’re trying to do it, in and of itself, is tasteless, super offensive or dismissive (or all three, because it’s usually all three). Sometimes, things just need to be talked through.
“When I was a student at Cambridge I remember an anthropology professor holding up a picture of a bone with 28 incisions carved in it. “This is often considered to be man’s first attempt at a calendar,” she explained. She paused as we dutifully wrote this down. “My question to you is this – what man needs to mark 28 days? I would suggest to you that this is woman’s first attempt at a calendar.”
It was a moment that changed my life. In that second I stopped to question almost everything I had been taught about the past. How often had I overlooked women’s contributions? How often had I sped past them as I learned of male achievement and men’s place in the history books? Then I read Rosalind Miles’s book “The Women’s History of the World” (recently republished as “Who Cooked the Last Supper?”) and I knew I needed to look again. History is full of fabulous females who have been systematically ignored, forgotten or simply written out of the records. They’re not all saints, they’re not all geniuses, but they do deserve remembering.”—
A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?
There are tons of problems with the many branches of feminism, but being against “men’s rights” is not one of them. I always thought this was extremely obvious for anyone who can manage the smallest amount of critical thinking. But after listening to the things my guy friends think about feminism and knowing that MRAs exist… I guess not?